“Never love someone beneath your level of evolution. If you want a monkey, you can visit one at your local zoo.” -Shannon L. Alder

Cheating

No one wants to admit that they are unfaithful. We’re supposed to believe a relationship is sacred. Love is something to be cherished, something to be respected. What no one’s telling us today, is how easy it is to fall away from the traditional moral compass of a relationship.

So let’s rewind a little… I actually asked several of my friends when the last time they went on a date was, and I received a lot of blank stares. Some of my closest friends hadn’t even ever been on a real date. So is it our fault? No. Society has bred our generation to detach. There is no pressure to be a gentleman or a lady in our day in age because we can get away with so much more. I mean you can pretty much get any girls attention by liking all of her instagrams from 6 months ago (we see where you’re going with that, every time). So with instant communication comes the guiltless pleasure of a flirty message here and there; single or not, or getting away with that sexy snap chat to his friend (as long as your man stays your “best” friend of course). Technology has given us a means to live two separate lives, a great way to escape the feeling of guilt due to an electronic medium.

People aren’t dating anymore and that’s a reality. I think that brings a lot of the incentive to cheat, especially being in your 20’s. Why? Because relationships aren’t serious, plus we’re all lost and trying to figure out who we are and what the f we’re gona do with our lives.Now don’t get me wrong here, there is always the exception of course, but think about it, how many relationships began with you drunkinly kissing someone at a party? How can we not expect our partner to think it’s okay to do those things when they are in a relationship? Cheating is never okay, at least not in my book, but sadly it’s becoming more and more common and I’d say ultimately more accepted.

So what do we do about it? I’m not entirely sure. I think ethically it comes down to your code of what you are going to expect from your partner. If you guys aren’t on the same page and one of you sees other people because you think it’s okay… probably isn’t cheating. If she’s hiding her phone and not willing to let you sleep over as her boyfriend, that’s another story. Plain and simple if you have to investigate someone your with, it probably isn’t an awesome relationship. We are young, and as cliche as it sounds, we’re going to make mistakes. If you want prince charming, demand it. If you’re settling for that chick that you know get’s around, that’s your choice. Cheating is the ultimate betrayal, so if you’re down to let that slide you should probably be looking within for a far bigger issue. The more we force a higher standard, the more likely we are to get it in return, to get the best we have to be our best selves.